Do beer goggles only apply to people?
I’ve been thinking about this question a lot lately. The handsome stranger you spotted across the room while tipsy looks very different the next day. Suddenly, the man before you is not nearly as attractive as you remember. In the light of day, you realize that alcohol didn’t make him more attractive; it just made him appear more attractive.
If beer goggles can do this to people, can they also affect our experiences? Does alcohol truly make the events in your life more fun or does it just color your perception of events? In other words, do beer goggles apply to more than just the handsome stranger across the room?
I’m fascinated by this because for so long I fought tooth and nail when it came to considering my life without drinking. I was so convinced that if I let alcohol go I would be signing up for a life of boredom. Sure, I wouldn’t have to deal with hangovers anymore, but in return I would have less fun. Let’s be honest. Who wants to sign up for that?
So I stayed stuck.
Here’s the thing: I don’t think drinking is bad and abstaining is good. In fact, part of the problem is that morality has so clouded the debate that it’s hard just to talk about the subject without feeling that right and wrong are at play.
But if you can get to a neutral place—where drinking is neither moral nor immoral—maybe then you can start to answer this question for yourself.
Is alcohol really making an event more fun, or is it just making your perception of it better? It’s a hard question to answer because, unlike dealing with people, you don’t get to do a before and after with your experiences. You aren’t given the opportunity to see them after the fact.
You might even want to take it a step further and apply the question to yourself.
Clients tell me they're nervous to take a break from drinking because it loosens them up and lubricates social situations. The questions remains: does alcohol actually make you a more relaxed and social person or does it just make you appear this way, and is it worth it to you to learn how to do these things on your own?
You tell me.