As we’ve discussed on previous episodes, many of us drink to lower our inhibitions; alcohol can help us relax, cut loose, and be more social. However, sometimes, we get a bit too reckless and we wake up the day after drinking dealing not only with a hangover, but also with self-loathing, embarrassment, and shame over how we acted the night before.
Many people who are thinking about changing their drinking habits, cutting back, or taking a break, begin that work and quickly get stuck in one place. They start feeling that they are unable to forgive themselves for something that they did in their past when they were drunk. They feel like they can’t let go of that shame and guilt because they think of it as a “payback” for what they did.
On this episode of Take a Break from Drinking, we explore how feeling shame over our past creates a vicious cycle of staying in the dark and continuing to drink even more. We also look at the sticking points of cutting back when we focus on the past and what we can do to “change our past,” as impossible as it may sound.
Listen in for questions you can ask yourself to figure out how you can start thinking about your past differently and free yourself of that heavy burden.
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What You'll Learn from this Episode:
- The common thought patterns around how we act while intoxicated.
- Why hanging on to shame and guilt makes it more difficult to take a break.
- The detrimental, lasting effects of shame.
- The importance of understanding that the past does not dictate how you feel today.
- What you need to do to change how you feel about your past.
- 5 questions to help you start thinking about your past in a different way.
- Ideas for where you can find thoughts that will help you with this process.